Anger

Some of the physical signs of anger might include:

• Clenched teeth

• Tense shoulders

• Increased heart rate

• Clenched fists

• Tight stomach

• Tense muscles.

Sometimes the smallest of things can make us angry. It is natural to feel angry at times but it can become a problem if it’s uncontrolled.

Here is a list of some things that might make you angry:

• Being embarrassed in front of other people

• Changes in the family, like divorce or separation

• Being let down

• Something that feels unfair

• Not being listened to

• Feeling lonely or rejected

• Pressure from school or at home

• Death in the family

• Being bullied

• Being hurt or abused.

Outward aggression

This involves expressing your anger and aggression in an obvious way. This can include behaviour such as shouting, swearing, throwing or breaking things, or being verbally or physically abusive toward others.

Inward aggression

This type of anger is directed at yourself. It involves negative self-talk, denying yourself things that make you happy or even basic needs, such as food. Self-harm and isolating yourself from people are other ways anger can be directed inward.

Passive aggression

This involves using subtle and indirect ways to express your anger. Examples of this passive aggressive behaviour include giving someone the silent treatment, sulking, being sarcastic and making snide remarks.

• CAMHS Resources - This site was created for young people, carers and professionals to pool together lots of helpful resources from across the internet that are available to help support mental health and well-being.

• onyourmindglos - Helpful guides about emotional health.

• Get Self Help - This website provides CBT self-help and therapy resources, including worksheets and information sheets and self-help mp3s.

• Centre for Clinical Interventions - Self-help resources for mental health problems.

• HeadSpace is a personal guide to health and happiness. Designed to help you focus, breathe, stay calm, perform at your best, and get a better nights rest through the life-changing skills of relaxation, meditation and mindfulness.

• Calm is an app for meditation and sleep. Designed to help lower stress, lessen anxiety, and assist in a more restful sleep with guided meditations, sleep stories, breathing techniques, masterclasses and relaxing music.

• 7 cups Free anonymous emotional support and counselling from trained active listeners.

• Smiling Mind is a unique tool developed by psychologists and educators to help bring balance to your life.

• When Sophie Gets Angry, Really, Really Angry by Molly Bang

• When I Feel Angry by Cornelia Maude Spelman

• Cool Down and Work Through Anger by Cheri J. Meiners M.Ed

• Angry Octopus by Lori Lite and Max Stasuyk

• Don’t Rant and Rave on Wednesdays by Adolph Moser 

• How to Take The Grrrr Out of Anger by Elizabeth Verdick and Marjorie Lisovskis 

• What to Do When Your Temper Flares by Dawn Huebner 

• Happiness Doesn’t Come from Headstands by Tamara Levitt

• The Secret to Clara’s Calm by Tamara Levitt

• Lancashire Libraries - Reading Well for Young People – Shelf Help

• The Charlie Waller Memorial Trust book recommendations and book club.